The one and only piece of advice that I can admit to learning from a teen romantic comedy from the years 1998-2000 is from the movie Center Stage. Yes, yes, all you male readers are like “Huh? Whats that?” Well, then there’s others who’s girlfriends have made them watch it (wha? fubar readers have girlfriends?!)…Yes, I”m talking all about that fruity ballet movie. And what I learned is that…
“When someone is being a prick, and says it nicely, its only prickier.”
Though, ‘prickier’ is not really a proper word in the English language, that of course can be overlooked and we can all bask in the truth of it all. Hell, I probably misquoted it too. But thats the jist of it. Well, actually, I also learned that in order to attend highschool you’ve either got to be completely gorgeous (i.e. a jock/tramp) or an uber nerd (in reference, see Rachel Leigh Cook’s character in Shes All That). But yes…getting off the point.
And the topic of this is that guys are pricks. And one particular guy of the moment, Curt. Curt being my now ex-boyfriend who broke up with me earlier today on msn. MS-fucking-N. Grr. He told me it was him and that he wants to be friends…The same old lines, huh? Recycled garbage just doesn’t work for me this time. I don’t want him in my life anymore. No matter how much I actually did/do like him. I actually sort of thought we kind of had something there…Apparently not.
I know I’m not the only one hurt in the situation, but he was so damn nice about it so I can’t hate him. I hate it when you men do that.
Honestly, what is wrong with me? Am I not smart enough? Am I that heinously ugly? Didn’t I do everything I could to make sure he was happy? What is wrong with me? I’ve been crying on and off all afternoon. Any ideas? Comments? Advice?
Liz-
We men suck. I don’t know what else to say. Other than to reassure you that there is NOTHING wrong with you. Not from what I know of you and can tell, at least.
Beyond that, I have a side comment. It always seems to me that I get more of the reaction I want out of women if I am a prick about it. I spend most of my time being ‘the nice guy’ and it gets me nowhere. Unfortunately, it is really who I am. But when I decide to cut my losses with a girl because it is going nowhere that I want it to, that is ALWAYS the point that they decide to ‘give me what I want’. Unfortunately, by the time I decide to cut my losses (it takes a lot for me to give up on something) my mind is absolutely made up.
people are funny. And stupid. And pricks.
#1 | Comment by smash — October 1, 2002 @ 8:27 pm
Liz…it really was him not you…He’s gay!! can’t you see?? That’s the only reasonable explanation I can think of. I wish I had some good advice, but I’ve been single over a year so I wouldn’t listen to me.
#2 | Comment by Keli — October 1, 2002 @ 8:29 pm
Liz! Nothing is wrong with you. You are amazing. You are pretty, nice, funny, have the best choice in music, and the list goes on! I’m saying all of that and I’ve only talked to you like twice and I already think you are uber-cool. Guys are dumb. Him especially. Cheer up, love. <3
#3 | Comment by suzi — October 1, 2002 @ 8:36 pm
wow been awhile since I made a comment, umm all I gots to say is that even though I am one. Men are jerks. Just comes natrually. But chicks are bitches so it balances out. I guess all there is to tell you is to cut your losses and go find another jerk who will make you happy. And one day you will find a jerk you can live with. Remember this. You come not to love by finding the perfect person, but by seeing an imperfect person, perfectly.
#4 | Comment by Tim — October 1, 2002 @ 8:45 pm
all i know is, being the nice guy never really works. that would be me.
but for you, there’s nothing wrong with you or anything… sometimes guys just do that i guess. yes, we are occasionally pricks.
but just keep hope in yourself, and the fact that there’s nothing wrong with you it’s just everybody else around you. sounds ironically paranoid but it’s true. so keep that chin up, smile more, and don’t worry. hakuna matata – haha, i’m so gay.
-dex
oh well…
#5 | Comment by dex — October 1, 2002 @ 8:49 pm
Ummm…
I am a guy and i am not a jerk… SO THANKS FOR GENERALIZING ALL OF US GUYS AS JERKS!!! Not you liz, but all these guys that think they can get in your pants by saying some nice words to ya.
By the way… don’t spend too much time worrying about this guy, some people do just grow apart in time. The other possibility is that he is a true ass and was only wanting one thing, there are plenty of guys that play the sweet, nice, charmer role with hopes the girl will cave in.
Do not let this crush your spirit, thats what you have going for you.
#6 | Comment by Jeff — October 1, 2002 @ 9:10 pm
uh….yeah…well….hmm…ah….touchy subject…can’t say something without offending you (liz) or making myself look like an ass (being a guy). Guess all I can say is this most famous quotes "You win some, you lose some"
#7 | Comment by J — October 1, 2002 @ 9:11 pm
Hi… Liz i think your getting it all wrong…the truth is the only reason why most men are pricks is because girls are atracted to that….they LOVE assholes…you would have avoided this whole problem if you had been with a nice guy who cares about you and actually has feelings…GOD! I just realized…i hate women! In fact…this is just the begining of my seril killing rampage…from now on ill be known as "Grey Matter"
#8 | Comment by Celius_Quin — October 1, 2002 @ 9:28 pm
Ok…before i get any angry replies: THIS WAS JUST A JOKE!And dont worry….youll fiund another guy in no time…oh has anyone got any word on that guy who was going to take picture of his classmates?
#9 | Comment by Celius_Quin — October 1, 2002 @ 9:30 pm
What is funny is that at a time like this there is nothing really that a person can say that will make you feel better. You just want someone to talk to, something to read, anything to do other then think about him, even though the subject still revolves around him. At least this way you can push your feelings aside for a moment and just read other people’s opinions. Not going to say how great you are and how horrible he is because, frankly, I don’t know you and you guys will probably either be back together or friends in a short while anyways. Even if not. Of all the relationships I had before I got married, the most important lesson I learned, even though some of the girls I thought at the time I would be with forever, is…It is better to have loved and lost then to never have loved at all. Even though your guts are torn out right now, how alive do you feel? The most comforting thing to you in this moment is depressing music, but don’t you hear it better then ever before? Be glad you had the moments you did, look forward to better ones with someone else, live your sorrow for a time, then let it go. Nice guys don’t always finish last, all guys aren’t jerks, all girls aren’t bitches, and when it is all said and done…it is the person that never finds someone that is truly lost in the end.
#10 | Comment by Jamlink — October 1, 2002 @ 9:32 pm
Thank you to everyone. I really do appreciate you caring. Especially you, Jamlink. You really did sum it up.
And in the long run…Curt is NOT a prick. I know that. He was one of those so-called "nice boys". He was even a little dorky. But he was my dork, or whatever. Blah.
I’ll be okay…but you guys are teh sweet <3
#11 | Comment by Liz — October 1, 2002 @ 9:36 pm
*humps liz* 😮
#12 | Comment by mike — October 1, 2002 @ 9:39 pm
*yawns* If women weren’t so stupid as to be searching precisely FOR assholes 99 percent of the time, this wouldnt happen every damn day. Get over yourself, you got yourself into it.
#13 | Comment by Mike — October 1, 2002 @ 9:52 pm
It’s all a bunch of bullshit to make you feel better. There’s obviously SOMETHING wrong with you (in his opinion) otherwise he wouldn’t have broke up with you on MSN of all places. If you held any value in his life he would’ve at least done it in person. Maybe you smell? How can most of these people actually tell you it was HIS fault when the only reason they know you exist is because they read blog sites? Like I said, bullshit.
#14 | Comment by xenophile — October 1, 2002 @ 10:09 pm
Yea, I was dumped today too by my girlfriend so it works both ways. I feel soo lonely, I’m gonna go cry in my room :
Don’t worry about it, you’ll get over it, and if you don’t, I’m single 😀
#15 | Comment by art — October 1, 2002 @ 10:10 pm
sorry, mike. stop humping liz. shes mine! (even though she doesnt know it.) <3
#16 | Comment by suzi — October 1, 2002 @ 10:47 pm
i loomked at your pics on your site, I have to agree you do have a few whips from the ugly strap on you… But you are "cute", shall we say
#17 | Comment by Jessie — October 1, 2002 @ 11:45 pm
holys#%t jamlink, that was good, very well put indeed.
#18 | Comment by Tim — October 1, 2002 @ 11:47 pm
Liz: Just be glad he realized that he is not good enough for you and was man enough to breakup so you could move on to someone worthy of you.
BTW nice layout on your website:
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You and Meg are both MIA. Can you contact your host?
#19 | Comment by fanoflizandsuziandkeliandandand — October 1, 2002 @ 11:50 pm
ehm. :\ Teens tend have their "hearts broken" regularly. It sucks now, no doubt, but (and this is so way, way cliche) it’ll all be better in an amazingly short amount of time. (Oddly enough, when I read the first sentence, I thought it was going to be Justin.)
#20 | Comment by thess — October 2, 2002 @ 1:16 am
werd, y0!
#21 | Comment by Chris — October 2, 2002 @ 2:00 am
but really.. all these people before me summed it all up
#22 | Comment by Chris — October 2, 2002 @ 2:03 am
Jeez, you fucking wimp-ass-no-balls-having-bitch-asses. Ihad no idea this many HOMOS frequented this site.
As for you liz – yes you do suck that much. Afterall, what kind of douche posts crap like that on a site? Oh wait. My hamster just died… should I cremate him or give him a military funeral?
#23 | Comment by lovedasausage — October 2, 2002 @ 4:42 am
hmmm…Liz and Suzi together…I like the sound of that!
As for some of the asses in here making comments like "it is you liz" etc. – fuck ’em.
The rest of us are here to listen to you vent.
#24 | Comment by smash — October 2, 2002 @ 5:08 am
Military funeral all the way. He was a good soldier,he fought well.
#25 | Comment by Bubba — October 2, 2002 @ 11:32 am
ahoy.it may seem weird i am posting in this particular section…but you all may remember awhile back justin had graced up w/ the lobely flash show about the porno cats…w/ awesome chinese songs….well folks….there is an english version…that gives a very good second laugh….http://www7.ocn.ne.jp/~helpme/flash/chinko_eng.swf
#26 | Comment by fromagex — October 2, 2002 @ 12:06 pm
ATTN JESSIE!
I WILL HAVE YOU KNOW THAT LIZ IS A BEAUTIFUL PERSON, OBVIOUSLY YOU ARE NOT, HOW CAN YOU SAY SOMEHTING LIKE THAT TO SOMEONE WHO HAS JUST HAD HER HEART BROKEN? You must be oh so beautiful and no girl has evr broke your heart, or maybe you have never had a girl….the point is, she posted that to get support, who cares if it is bullshit, DONT POST IF YOU DONT LIKE HER! just ignore her comments, then everyone is happy, alright?
#27 | Comment by Meg — October 2, 2002 @ 12:11 pm
22nd comment, w00t!
#28 | Comment by below me — October 2, 2002 @ 12:16 pm